When we care for people on a daily basis, whether we are healers, caregivers, or parents, we can experience burnout if we don’t take time for self-nurturing. We can get so depleted that we don’t have anything left to give. Have you ever experienced that? It’s a common occurrence for women. Taking care of yourself is an important part of being in service to others. Slow down, take a break, and take a moment to listen to the needs of your body, mind, and spirit. Are you feeling stressed, exhausted, or beating yourself up for not getting everything done? If so, then it’s vitally important that you give yourself a little tender loving care before you go down for the count. If that happens, you won’t be able to care for anyone. Give yourself a bit of love and some guilt-free self-care on a daily basis. Even if it’s just a few moments of quiet time, it can help build up some steam for the next round of your busy life. by Karyn Bender | Jan 13, 2016 | Facebookvia Karyn Bender RPh...
As dreamers, we hold the beautiful opportunity each day to become one with our souls. Within us, we have the power to unleash our passion, to discover, and to explore many wonders. May we not only wish, but may our wishes be the root and pathway that guides our dreams and passions. Sometimes, we wish for people: for changed minds, for their presence, for their words, for their touch. Other times, we wish for ourselves: for peace, for gentleness, for joy or contentment. These wishes are tiny prayers of daydreams that our Creator longs to help us be, or become. Sometimes we need things we do not wish for, and sometimes the wishes we make do not come true. Yet, may we trust in the journey ahead. We shall use our wishes as the kindling to spark the fire of our creativity and passion. by Karyn Bender | Jan 8, 2016 | Facebookvia Karyn Bender RPh...
Burnout can be overwhelming. Life is moving right past you at top speed, and you’re just trying to keep your head above water. You feel like you’ve been deflated and you’re trying to get back your spark, your enthusiasm, and your passion. Though it may be difficult to see, this time of darkness is needed in order to see the light. There is a lesson somewhere in the midst of all of this, waiting to be discovered. Open your heart, quiet your mind, and invite in an understanding that this humbling experience will be one of your greatest teachers. Because it is the act of getting up after being knocked down that offers us our greatest growth. by Karyn Bender | Jan 6, 2016 | Facebookvia Karyn Bender RPh...
It creeps up on us, especially around this time of year. Unwelcome irritability or grumpiness begins to rear its ugly head, unexplained fatigue begins to pull you down, or maybe the things you usually enjoy are not making you smile. Your normally positive relationships at work are suddenly strained and difficult. Sounds a bit like depression, right? But it could just be burnout. Stressors add up quickly and without time to recoup and reset, your brain and body begin to shut down to try to repair the damage from everyday difficulties. How to best beat burnout? When things are moving too fast or feeling too hard, try these 3 steps for a quick fix: solitude, saying no, and self care. First take a mindful moment alone. Just breathe and reconnect with your body to get out of your head and back into the moment. Next, remember you are allowed say no to requests at work or home to regain a little time for yourself. It’s much more healthy to say no to a request that will will overextend your energy than to say yes and end up double booked and frantic. Finally, try a little self care to restore. Maybe a hot bath with essential oils or a cup of tea with the door closed is all you need to reboot your day. Maybe an exercise class or a walk is your self-care solution. Perhaps reaching out for help is your best bet to unburden your cares and call in a little support. Whatever you need, take a moment to find out what that is, and treat yourself to some loving care to avoid burnout. by Karyn Bender | Jan 4, 2016 | Facebookvia Karyn Bender RPh...
It’s the time of year where we take stock of our lives and look at what we aren’t happy with, then make New Year’s resolutions to change the things that we think are wrong with us. Usually by the end of January, we’ve given up on quitting smoking, going to the gym four times a week, sticking to our diets, or whatever else we think will make us happier, healthier, and more complete. For those of us who have a hard time sticking to our resolutions, maybe we should try something different. This year, make one resolution only; stop seeing yourself as someone who needs to be fixed. There is nothing wrong with making goals to improve yourself, but most of the things that we intend to change every New Year aren’t really the problem. The real issue is that we are extremely hard on ourselves. We embrace perfection to the point of being incapable of accepting ourselves just as we are. As a result, we don’t believe that we can be happy right here, right now, regardless of our circumstances. Make a commitment to love yourself and to cherish your beautiful, glorious imperfections. The kinder you are to yourself, the easier it will be to eventually let go of behaviors and habits that no longer serve you. by Karyn Bender | Jan 1, 2016 | Facebookvia Karyn Bender RPh...